Some of the most powerful tools that teachers have at their disposal are absolutely free! The spoken word, a pat on the back, a thumbs up – these positive interactions are highly effective for motivating students and shaping behavior. Current research indicates that a ratio of 5:1 – five positive interactions to one negative is optimal for relationship building and improving student behavior and performance. It is fascinating to note that researchers have applied this ratio to adult relationships as well. Successful business AND marriages are built on positive interactions; therefore, we not only encourage appropriate behavior, but model for our students the types of interactions that will serve them throughout adulthood.
Interactions are deemed positive or negative depending on the behavior which they are addressing. With this being said, any interaction that is in response to an inappropriate behavior is considered to be a negative interaction regardless of how kindly it is delivered. For example, a student may be blurting out in class and I say, “Katie, I am so glad that you know the answer, but I need to see that other know as well.” The correction was delivered in a kind manner, but since the behavior being addressed is negative, the interaction is still a negative interaction.
So, how does this ratio occur in your classroom? Well, it does not just happen, it requires that you make a concerted effort to systematically acknowledge and reinforce appropriate behaviors as often as possible. Additionally, when dealing with inappropriate behaviors, it is important to determine which behaviors can be ignored and which behaviors must be addressed. When a student exhibits an inappropriate behavior in your classroom, ask yourself the following questions: Can I still teach? Can the student still learn? Can the other students still learn? If the answer to all three questions is YES, ignore the behavior. If you consciously acknowledge appropriate behaviors and ignore those behaviors that do not interfere with instruction, you will make great strides toward the 5:1 ratio.
Begin your morning with 10 pennies, paperclips, or other small object in your pocket. Each time you feel the object in your pocket, provide a positive interaction and remove one item from the pocket. By lunchtime, your pocket should be empty. Refill and strive to deliver at least ten more positive interactions before the end of the school day. Even at this rate, you most likely have not reached the 5:1 ratio, but you are training yourself to make positive interactions a part of your daily instruction. By achieving this ratio, we teach our students that they will more readily gain access to teacher attention by behaving appropriately rather than inappropriately.
“The more positive attention a child receives the more cooperative he becomes.” (http://www.aish.com/f/p/48918197.html)
